“You do not truly know someone,until you fight them.”- The Matrix

“You do not truly know someone,

until you fight them.”

You don’t really know someone until life tests the bond.

Conflict reveals character.

Pressure shows the truth.

Sometimes the fight exposes them…

sometimes, it reveals you.

Dee😶‍🌫️

STRESS, THE STOMACH, AND LIVING A LIFE OF LIES

Ever wondered why some people break into sweat, develop “mysterious” stomach pain, or suddenly need to lie down after they… well… lie?

Let’s talk about it.

Because yes, stress-induced gastritis is real. And while a lie itself won’t burn a hole in your stomach, the stress that comes with lying absolutely can.

Lies may be small, cute, decorated, sugar-coated or painted gold… but they come with interest rates.

And that interest is paid in:

Sleepless nights

Overthinking

Anxiety

And sometimes… stomach pain that feels like a riot inside your belly

You see, the body isn’t as good at lying as the mouth is.

While the mouth says, “I’m fine,”

the stomach whispers, “No, we are not!”

Because living a life of lies forces the body into constant tension—you’re always editing, remembering, dodging, pretending. And that stress? It shows up where you least expect it.

Even science agrees. Stress releases hormones that increase acid, irritate the stomach lining, and create discomfort.

So while lies may look like shortcuts, they’re actually a long, windy road to stress.

But here’s the beautiful twist…

“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” — John 8:32

Truth is freedom—light, peace, and a calm stomach.

Truth doesn’t require rehearsals.

Truth doesn’t wake you up at night.

Truth doesn’t give you heartburn.

Truth doesn’t need backup dancers and supporting lies to survive.

Truth lets you breathe again.

When you choose truth—even when it’s uncomfortable—you choose:

Peace over pressure

Freedom over fear

Health over hidden stress

Clarity over confusion

Living truthfully is like taking your stomach off night duty.

A life of truth is a life of rest.

So if you’ve been carrying the weight of lies—big or small—maybe it’s time to let your body and mind breathe again.

Choose truth. Your spirit will thank you.

And honestly?

Your stomach will too.

Dee😇

To My Boys: The Principles You Carry Will Make You Great!

My dear boys,

As you’ve grown, you’ve tried your hands and hearts at so many beautiful skills. Piano, swimming, saxophone, football, karate, and more. I’ve watched you show up, learn, struggle, practice, improve, and sometimes even fall in love with something new.

But today I want to remind you of something important:

The goal was never just to become perfect at every skill.

The goal was to become stronger because of the principles each skill taught you.

Every time you sat at the piano, you learned focus and patience.

Every lap in the pool taught you endurance.

Every saxophone note trained your discipline.

Every football match showed you teamwork and strategy.

Every karate class built your confidence, respect, and self-control.

You may not choose to become professional pianists, star athletes, or world-class martial artists and that’s perfectly okay. What truly matters is that you carry the lessons with you.

Because those lessons, discipline, hard work, resilience, teamwork, courage, consistency are the qualities that make great men.

No skill you learned was ever wasted. You have gathered tools that will help you succeed in school, in your careers, in leadership, in friendships, and in the families you one day build.

So don’t measure your worth by titles or trophies.

Measure it by the strength of your character and the principles you choose to live by.

And in that, my boys, you are already becoming extraordinary.🥳

With all my love,

Mum🥰

Happy birthday to me!

Wiser. Softer. Stronger. Wrapped in grace and grateful for a new year🎁🎊🎂🥳🥳

Dee🥳

​🖐️ The Secret Ingredient is Your Fingertips: Why Amala, Rice, and Everything Else Tastes Better Barehanded

I’m going to let you in on a secret: the reason your amala, scooped and blended with that perfect ewedu is one of the tastiest meal in the world ....this isn't just about the soup. It's about how you eat it.😉

​If you haven't experienced the sheer joy of eating your rice, beans, or even a messy plate of seafood with your hands, you’re only getting half the flavor. The moment you ditch the fork, you transform your meal from a routine necessity into a full-body sensory experience.🔥🔥

​Here is why this simple, time-honored practice scientifically and psychologically unlocks a deeper, more satisfying flavor in every dish.

​👅 Touch, Texture, Taste: The Sensory Trifecta

​Your hands are an incredibly sensitive, sophisticated tool. When you use them to eat, you instantly engage the powerful sense of touch, which directly enhances your perception of taste.

​Tactile Feedback: Your fingertips relay immediate information about the food's temperature, texture, and consistency. You feel the warm, smooth give of the amala or the gentle stickiness of the rice. This rich, pre-taste sensory input primes your brain, making the flavors you taste seconds later seem intensified and more enjoyable.

​The Perfect Blend: This is especially true for foods like rice and stews. Your hands allow you to instinctively mix the optimal ratio of grains, sauce, and protein in every bite. It’s a personalized, bespoke flavor combination that no utensil can replicate, leading to a consistently delicious and balanced mouthful.

​🧠 The Psychology of Savoring: Eating Less, Satisfied More

​Beyond the physical sensations, eating with your hands has a profound effect on mindful consumption.

​Forced Mindfulness: You are automatically forced to slow down. The deliberate, careful process of scooping, molding, and delivering food to your mouth is a conscious act, unlike the fast, often thoughtless, actions of using cutlery. This pause ensures you are present in the moment.

​The Fullness Signal: Because you are eating slower and paying closer attention, your body has the necessary time about 20 minutes to register the signals of satiety (fullness). This is why many people,l, notice they eat less when they eat rice or other staples with their hands they are truly satisfied, not just full.

​🔥 My Challenge to You: Feel the Flavor

​Don't let culture or habit hold you back. Wash your hands thoroughly, and try it with your next meal, whether it's traditional Nigerian swallow, a hearty Indian curry, or even a simple plate of salad you toss and scoop.

​You’ll discover that the secret ingredient has been with you all along. You’ll be eating more mindfully, tasting more deeply, and ultimately, enjoying your food much more.

Dee😋

✨ Delusion Diaries: The Habits That Built My Reality ✨ Episode 2

Fill Your Cup First :The Self-Care Rule That Changed Everything

Here’s the truth: I can’t pour into anyone family, colleagues, friends, the world if I’m running on empty. That’s why my mornings are sacred. Before emails, deadlines, or conversations, I take the first hour (sometimes two) to fill my cup.

What does that look like?

✨ Prayer to align my spirit.

✨ Meditation to quiet the noise.

✨ Journaling to untangle my thoughts.

✨ A good workout to sweat, move, and remind my body it’s alive.

This ritual isn’t luxury it’s oxygen. Without it, I find myself scattered, easily distracted, and more reactive than proactive. But when I guard that time, something shifts. I step into the day centered, grounded, and overflowing with energy to share.

It’s like charging your phone overnight you wouldn’t leave the house on 2% battery and expect to survive the day. So why do that to yourself?

And once my cup is full, I step outside to connect with the earth bare feet on grass, grounding myself in nature. That combination of inner filling and outer connection keeps me balanced in a world that thrives on pulling you in a thousand directions.

The beauty is this: when you prioritize your own well-being, you don’t just benefit yourself you elevate the spaces you enter. My colleagues feel it. My family feels it. Strangers even feel it. Energy doesn’t lie.

So yes, I choose me first, every morning. Because when my cup is full, everyone around me gets the overflow.

Dee😇🤩

Grandma to the Rescue 😅

When you think you’re running the show… then Grandma enters the chat. 😅

So, I’ve been traveling a lot lately. On one of those trips, the boys called to proudly announce that they had plans.... you know, hanging out with their bestie, staying out late, living their best teenage lives.

I just smiled, said “okay,” and quietly made one little move… I asked my mum to check on them. Then I switched off my phone.

The next morning? Pure comedy! 😂

The boys met my mum....not their Grandma🙄.

Apparently, she called to ask where they were. They casually replied, “We’re just chilling.”

“Chilling? At 9 p.m.? And not at home?”

Next thing, Grandma was on a roll. She called their dad:

“How are you? Do you know the boys are not home? And you are where again?”

Then came the line that ended all the fun:

“I give you 30 minutes. Make sure the boys are home and call me back.”

Let’s just say… everyone was home. In record time. 😅

Now I’m seriously considering importing Grandma permanently 🥱 for Law and Order: Family Edition.

Dee🥰